Y is for Yes

April 26, 2019 · Written by Flori Fama

Saying “yes” to each other every day is what we do to challenge the distance.

When I was brainstorming around this concept for “Y”, I visualized someone drawing a letter in the water. Something that's impossible to stick long enough to be seen as a full shape so you basically see the trace vanishing as you're creating it. It's ephemeral. You need two people to be constantly involved to prevent the trace from disappearing completely. This is how I feel about LDRs. It's hard work but you do it naturally because you value your partner so much you need for “the trace to not vanish”. You don't have the closeness regular relationships have, where you can be bonding just by chilling in the same room as your partner, for example. You need to feed your relationship with affection however you can and say “yes” to your love for each other every single day. Show how much you care, keep your love alive, build trust, keep it interesting, don't lose sight of your goals and what really matters.

Sometimes your connection to each other can get very fragile and your history will be the foundation helping to keep that “yes” still strong. What I mean is don't let the distance make you lazy. Neglecting your partner or getting too busy will inevitably make you drift apart emotionally (well this is not exclusive to LDRs, of course). I always mention that distracting myself in order to forget about the thought of being apart is what helps me the most. But later on, I make sure to share as much as I can with my bf so that the bad thoughts go away and the good ones come back to me.

We say yes to love and caring and no to fear and doubts.